Formerly, childbirth was only a matter of women. The midwife, mother, mother-in-law or sister of the parturient attended while the father waited for the first cry of the heir on the other side of the door. Thank God, things have changed and since man has a lot to do with the matter, today he also accompanies his wife in the trance of giving birth.
Although many feel useless, the role of the father at the time of delivery is essential and necessary for both the woman and the baby. She needs the security that gives her support and company, and the first contact with the baby will help to create an early attachment bond with her child.
Some parents may feel embarrassed to see their woman in pain. Others believe that they are going to fall round to the ground in the paritor, but then the moment is so exciting that they remember the whole life experience. If the father shared the ultrasounds, visits to the doctor, the course of childbirth preparation, was reported in books and magazines, and closely followed the development of pregnancy, he will feel more secure and prepared for that moment. There are some parents who participate in pregnancy in their own way, who may not be so outstanding, but at the time of delivery they feel equally excited.
Either way, there is a lot you can do. During the dilation phase, you can control the frequency of contractions and help the mother perform the breathing technique. You can also relieve it by giving a massage in the lower back or abdomen. Once in the delivery room your company is even more necessary. It can give you support and encouragement, helping the mother to push and breathe. While holding your hand you can tell how the birth develops and when the baby is born you can cut the cord and take it in your arms. The first moment of contact between mother-father and baby is so strong and emotional that it marks the future family relationship, and no one can be missing.
