It seems that it was yesterday when our children entered through the door of the school to greet a new course and yesterday they finished school. No, not a day has passed, nine months have passed and that means, for children, that vacations arrive.
Holidays, that word that many parents fear, as in Faro's vignette, precisely because they have to take care of their children. Well, take over in a relative way, because most will spend more than half of their vacations with grandparents or in summer houses or camps.
Children, like adults, are excited for the arrival of vacations, not for running away from school, since many like (others probably don't), as we run away from our work and the mundane noise, but because They can do different activities and, above all, because they can spend more time with us, parents.
However, many parents feel frightened, I say, like those in the vignette, because they are not accustomed to living the daily routine with their children, because they feel distant in many ways and because they have not just found the point of connection and communication that makes a relationship flow both on the part of one and the other.
By this I mean those fathers and mothers (I know some), who tend to look for "chores" and responsibilities, almost not to have to face that fatherhood escapes them. For example, I know a doctor who spends the week working in two hospitals and making guards and who loves her children, even though she has confessed that she is not able to spend too much time with them, or a friend who spends the day at work and almost the last one leaves, as if hoping that when he gets home, his girl is already asleep.
Maybe these cases are extreme, maybe not. In any case, it is usual to hear (every year I listen to it myself) to mothers to express the “what do I want to start school”. Unfortunate phrase that is usually verbalized in the presence of children. It is even common to also see parents plan vacations without their children, as if in addition to fleeing the responsibility of work and home they had to flee from their responsibility as parents.
I have titled this entry "Holidays are coming!" because I love being able to be with my children and enjoy with them the good, that there is a lot, and the least good, that there is also a lot, but that is what I have for having decided to be a father. Well, that is precisely what motivates you to be a better father and a better person.
Hopefully (I hope) that children this year can fulfill their dream of spending the summer with their parents, that they do not have to listen to rejection phrases like the one mentioned above and that he rubs with their parents, that they have not been able to have just during the year, make love, the one who has had to be replaced by kisses on the forehead when the child sleeps and with material gifts.
