It is very common for children, from two or three years, sometimes even later, to start touch the genitals and that they do it often when they realize that it produces pleasure or pleasure.
Many parents are amazed without knowing very well what to do, because they consider that seeing their daughter "rubbing" with the arm of the sofa or seeing their son with their hand inside their pants is equivalent to seeing them masturbating in front of them. Some consider it best to tell them to stop doing that, others to be distracted to do something else, others choose to censor them with a "that is not done", which may be accompanied by a "pig or pig" and others perhaps don't do anything
The question or questions then are: Are you masturbating? Do I have to do something to stop it? It is bad?
Let's start with the last one: is it bad?
Recently I have been able to read, thanks to social networks, a more than unfortunate article in which it is suggested that masturbating is negative because it takes away from young people the ability to love others in a healthy way and is a temptation that must be controlled by not to be healthy. Absurd and retrograde. Come on, it is not bad to masturbate, I think we all have this clear. Neither do you go blind, nor do you get a lightning bolt in your hand, nor are you a pervert to do it, nor will you go to any hell or anything like that.
Now, going back to young children, which is what we are talking about, is it bad? Well no, but if we talk about them we shouldn't even call it masturbation, but rather self-exploration.
Are you masturbating?
No, it is not. Or at least it does not in the sense that we know masturbation. It is true that they find pleasure in it, they have fun, it relaxes them, they do it maybe because they are bored. It coincides that they are in an age in which they are knowing themselves and are in the phase of total exploration of the environment and in addition to total exploration of the body. There is no sexual connotation or vice, but simply the encounter of an area of the body that produces a certain pleasure, and that makes them repeat the action. Come on, if they realize that touching their ankle they have new sensations, they would take a certain affection for their ankle.
We have to do something?
Well, no. In the same way that adolescents do not have to read articles that seem written in the year 1800 parents don't have to do anything with our sons or daughters, if they find pleasure in touching each other. It is normal that they like to do it. It is normal for them to do so and, in a way, it is logical. In the same way that they like to repeat when they like something to eat, in the same way that you always find them in the same closet taking the same thing that you have said a hundred times that they should not take, they find a reason to repeat when they touch the genitals.
I remember a father who explained to me that sometimes, while sitting, his daughter sat on her leg and began to move until she saw her gasp and blush ... the poor man did not know what to do. Obviously, it is also not a plan to have a bad time because what your daughter does is normal. If it bothers us, we can simply explain that we know you like what you are doing, but that makes us feel uncomfortable, and that if you want, do it somewhere else. Something like that we could also tell you on the street. I don't think it's usual to happen, but if so, we can explain that it's better to do it at home.
Over time, as they grow, they usually stop. That is why it makes no sense that we fool them with nonsense as if they are going to drop their penis if it is touched or that we insult them for sluts and pigs, let alone associate it with being good or bad ("good girls do not touch "). Is normal, it's healthy, it's logical and they're getting to know each other.
