Carlos González talks about children who cry when put to sleep

Continuing with the video series of Carlos Gonzalez that we have been publishing in Babies and more today we bring a new installment in which the pediatrician talks about Children who cry when put to sleep.

As he explains, the phrase "put children to sleep" is a modern attitude that has little to do with what has always been done, which is nothing other than sleeping children.

For some time this part has been tried (and is still trying) that babies and children acquire an almost adult autonomy and independence by ignoring the mammalian instincts that make children require the presence of their parents (or their mother) to Be calm, relaxed, feel good and fall asleep at ease.

There are many, too many, the times that I have read in books, pamphlets, leaflets, on the internet and even in sanitary guides the recommendation “it is important to put the child to sleep in his crib when he is still awake”, with the intention of not associating sleepy arms, or sleepy tit, or anything that involves a sleepy person, but associate sleeping with being alone in the crib, so that you get used to it.

However, as Pompeu Fabra said in his day, "if you don't rock it, you won't fall asleep." Well, this is not mathematical. There is always a baby who is able to fall asleep only if you put it in the crib, although they are a majority. There are many, many, mothers who explain to me in the nursing office, as if their child had a problem, that put him to sleep and that there is no way. They explain that they have tried in many different ways and that not only does he not sleep, but he cries for you to catch him. In addition, they add "I think it has become badly used".

Given this, and because of all those pamphlets, leaflets, books and professionals that recommend putting a child to sleep alone, I have to do an arduous job with these mothers so that Get out of the head that it is normal for children to sleep alone and do not believe that your child has a problem that needs solutionBasically, because they need the presence of someone who gives them confidence to sleep peacefully.

If the child looks for mom, it is not bad habit

If the child, when put to sleep, looks for a mother, it is not bad habit. It is not that he has become accustomed to doing something wrong, it is that he is acting in an innate and instinctive way with the intention of ensuring his survival (how the hell would a child survive thousands of years ago if when his mother left him alone he did not say neither ?) In fact, he has not gotten used to anything new, because it is something he does without anyone having taught him and without him having learned it.

Putting a baby to sleep alone in his crib is to accustom a baby to do something different to what it brings "as standard", so most cry, because it is a forced act, because It is not what babies are prepared to do and because it is not what they expect to happen.

If being alone in the crib cries for you to take it, you're not kidding

“It is that I put it in the cradle and it begins to moan and then to cry and, if I take it, it stops crying. I think he's kidding me. ” This is another phrase that they have told me hundreds of times and that surely sounds like more than one. However, if we analyze it, it is easy to see that the child is not teasing, but asking for something and receiving it.

"Teasing" means "laughing at someone" or "fooling someone." A baby is not able to tease. He does not do things with a second intention. I could say that a baby is teasing if, while lying down, he starts to moan and even cry and shut up just when his mother was going to catch him. I would also be doing it if I asked for active and passive lying in the crib to be alone in plan "Mom, put me there, really, I sleep alone" and then, once set, start to cry.

However, this does not happen, nor does the baby shut up just before being picked up or ask to be put in the crib to make him think he wants to sleep. He only complains when he feels alone for someone to accompany him and, when he succeeds, he shuts up. Come on ask, get and stop asking. That's how simple they are.

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